Óscar Romero and Opus Dei

I have prayed for many years for the canonization of Óscar Romero. When I was in University I learned of this great man. When he was killed the Bishop who had confirmed me was their and witnessed his death. This affected me profoundly.

When I met Opus Dei I was inspired by the fact that Óscar Romero loved Opus Dei. I had read how Romero had written to Pope Paul VI asking for the canonization of  Josemaría Escrivá de Balaguer.

Romero so admired Opus Dei that, during a visit to Rome, he went to its world headquarters to visit with Escrivá and the two became instant friends. John Allen Jr. writes that Romero’s letter came “before the 1977 murder in El Salvador of Father Rutilio Grande, an event that ‘radicalized’ Romero and led him to distance himself from some earlier conservative views.” ALLEN,Opus Dei: An Objective Look Behind the Myths and Reality of the Most Controversial Force in the Catholic Church, Doubleday, 2005.


Romero’s post-1977 preaching on social justice largely dovetails with principles espoused by Opus Dei. Romero made seven flattering references to Opus Dei in his Diary and his sermons between 1978 and 1980, and he attended an Opus Dei gathering of priests on the day he was killed. He also visited Msgr. Escrivá’s grave in Rome and prayed tearfully before the tomb. Romero’s relationship with Opus Dei after Romero became archbishop deepened.

Archbishop Romero drew on Opus Dei’s concept of lay spirituality to bolster his view of how a just society should be constituted. Opus Dei shows how to “to put into practice the teaching of the universal call to sanctity, and to promote at all levels of society the sanctification of ordinary work, and by means of ordinary work.” (Apostolic Constitution «Ut Sit», whereby Pope John Paul II authorizes the Opus Dei prelature.)


 The day before his martyrdom, Romero said: “The great task of Christians must be to absorb the spirit of God's kingdom and, with souls filled with the kingdom of God, to work on the projects of history.” (March 23, 1980 Hom.) He added, “My dear Christians, I have always told you, and I will repeat, that the true liberators of our people must come from us Christians, from the people of God.” (Id.) But for this to be possible, it was necessary that the Church train and organize classes of lay people to go be the worker ants of the Kingdom. “What is lacking,” he said, “is greater conviction and the honorable simplicity of women and men who are willing to commit themselves to service of God. This is God’s plan,” he added, “the simple life, the ordinary life—but giving this simple, ordinary life a meaning of love and freedom.” (Feb. 24, 1980 Hom.) This is what Opus Dei, “which emphasizes the values of prayer and holiness of the vocation of the laity,” offers, Romero wrote in His Diary. (Sept. 6, 1979 entry.) “I think it is a mine of wealth for our Church—the holiness of the laity in their own profession.” (Id.)

Romero had a sincere affinity for The Work (Opus means “work” in Latin).  In October 1978, Romero congratulated the society on its fiftieth anniversary. “The Church rejoices with every effort of sanctification in the world and at this time of the Church’s crisis,” he said, “desires that people not only live a personal and individual holiness but also strive for that communitarian holiness that gives witness to the light of the world.” (Oct. 8, 1978 Hom.) Later that month, he remarked on the continuing work of the Opus. “This holiness must be extended to the community because no one lives the Christian commitment for themselves alone,” he said. “Christians must be the odor of holiness and the seed of unity and salvation.” (Oct. 29, 1978 Hom.)


When I was considering my vocation in Opus Dei Óscar Romero helped me decide that this was the way to follow. I am happy that he will soon be beatified.

Saxum

 Saxum is the name of the new retreat centre we are building in Israel. Go to http://www.saxum.org/

The Year of the Faith is Here!

So what are you doing for The Year of the Faith?  What is your plan to grow closer to Jesus? I want to slow down and love more.

I keep hearing that the second fastest growing religion is falling away Catholics. 75% of us Catholics do not go to Church. This makes me very sad. I want to try harder to reverse this.

I have signed up for Read The Catechism in a Year. We are on Day 7 but it is not too late to join us.

There will be many graces this year of the faith which runs from October 11th, 2012 to November 24th, 2013. That's more than a year. I don't know about you but when it is Advent or Lent it always gets to the end and I am always wondering what did I really accomplish.

So in this Year of the Faith I hope it will be different. I will try to let you know each day what I have got done.

Let me know what your plans are.

Parents Will Save the World

We get so worried these days about the state of the modern family and wonder how the concept of the Catholic Family is going to survive with all the threats in our society against it. We need to remember our past and learn from our history it will survive as long as parents do their part.

In the 1540's St. Francis Xavier and the Jesuits were missionaries in Nagasaki Japan and were responsible for over 100,000 converts. But by 1587 Christianity was repressed in Japan as a threat to national unity and ceased to exist publicy and had to go underground.

By 1610, 1 out of 6 Japanese were Catholic. But in 1611 and 1613 the priests were expelled and thousands of Catholics were put to death. When the priests left Japan though they told the people to keep the faith and pass it on to your children, and eventually they would return.

After 250 years, 10 generations, when Japan was open up to the west again, the priests did return. The priests would walk through the streets, dressed very conspicuously with the hope of finding some remaining Catholics. Eventually a group of the faithful approached the priests and asked them some questions their parents had taught them on how to know a priest. They had to figure out if they were celibate, if they loved the mother of God and if they loved the Holy Man in Rome.

The priests soon discovered that there were 30,000 Catholics remaining in Japan after the 250 years. With only 2 sacraments, Baptism and Marriage, and in spite of great persecution, the parents had been able to pass on the faith to their children and keep the Church alive in Japan. The Church survived because of the parents.

Family life is the primary training ground for Catholics. With the concept of family rapidly changing in our society (redefinition of marriage in law, same sex marriage, cohabitation, casual sex, easy no-fault divorce), along with individualism, secularism, materialism, agnosticism, hedonism, rationalism and relativism, parents have their work cut out for them. Abortion, reproductive technologies and manipulation, euthanasia, destruction of human life for scientific advancement, rampant pornography and gratuitous violence, all make it seem like we have lost the battle to raise our children Catholic.

Sure if we focus on these destructive influences we could lose hope. So instead we have to stand firm and not be afraid of these influences or the people who have fallen for them and remember we have the truth on our side. We have to study our faith and know it well and lead by our example.

Healthy Christian marriages are the foundation of healthy families; and healthy families are the foundation of society. It is up to us to help restore this understanding by how we live our family life.

To begin with we must be clear that the family; mother, father, and any children(or no children for those who cannot have children) is the basic cell of any society. We must be very clear as to what a family is and what it is meant to be. We have to be able to explain what is the family’s full purpose and we need a profound understanding of God’s plan for the family.

The family is the only true natural institution. It is made by God and ordered to the care of the children. Through living out family life an individual develops and grows towards maturity.

If we look at the purpose of an acorn we can see that an acorn already contains all of the information necessary to form itself into an oak tree. All it needs is for certain conditions to be met, such as the absorption of water, sunlight, and nutrients. In essence, then, an acorn is an oak tree in a state of underdevelopment. The "Oak-tree-ness" is already written within the genetic code of the acorn. The acorn already is an oak tree, and that is how it is able to manifest itself as an oak tree when its conditions (for water, sunlight, and nutrients) are met.

It is the same with the family. The husband and wife are already a family but they have to be developed. The parents need to form the virtues in themselves and in any children they have, so like the acorn their family can reach its full potential.

Our job as parents is not to keep our children busy and amused, nor just to keep them out of trouble and make them behave. The real job of family life is to lead children by example, directed practice, and explanation, so that they grow up to be competent, responsible, considerate men and women who are committed to live by Catholic principles all their lives.

To this end it is imperative that all parents should have a copy of the Apostolic Exhortation Familiaris Consortio(On the Role of the Christian Family in the Modern World) from Pope John Paul II on their bedside and be reading and reflecting on it regularly. It is mandatory reading for all couples. This document opens the mind and heart to what God wants for the family.

It is no accident that Jesus grew up in a family. His public ministry did not arise out of the blue. It was in the hidden and uncelebrated years of family life, growing up in the home of Joseph and Mary, that the foundations of his ministry were laid. We see from the Holy Family’s great example that family love can change the world. We have to have confidence in the love which lies hidden in our own families and its bearing on the future of the world.

All married couples have to have a strong understanding of what the family is and be able to articulate it to their children, their grandchildren and all those around them. Weak thought will lead to weak families. We have to be able to give a rational explanation for our understanding of the family if we expect the family to survive in this age of technology and an overabundance of information. We must know the problems, know the enemy, know the tactics and know the answers.

Our Catholic Faith is one of faith and reason. We must truly understand the dignity of the person, the problems with modern materialism, relativism, new ageism, hedonism etc and be able to explain this simply enough for a child to understand.

If we do not really understand what the role of the family is and what God intended for it, then we float or are blown around by almost every and any cultural breeze that arises. We must be grounded in the truth, be able to explain to our children the rational reasons for the importance of why marriage as permanent, that God is everlasting, and His truths are everlasting. We must show our children how truth cannot change.

Sure it seems like the boat is bouncing on the waves but as long as Jesus is on the boat we do not have to be afraid. But when we take out eyes off Jesus we will sink. We must grow in the faith that all battles have been won. We must continue to pray. We must continue to study our faith and know it well and know the reasons for the truth.

Only the Church stands solidly against these inhumane trends that attack the dignity of the human person and the family. But keep in mind that Jesus is not an “against” type of person. He is a person, he is the incarnate truth, he is incarnate love, he is the way. We must know and revere what the Church teaches so we can live those teachings and share them with others.

Raising a family is an adventure and God designed it to live that way. We cannot lose heart in the strength of the family for then we lose heart in the truth. We have to pray for an ever increasing amount of the virtue of prudence. The Cardinal virtue of Prudence is the virtue that requires us to see things the way God sees them, in reality, and then to act in a manner coherent with that reality. We have to be grounded in reality. If we do not attempt to act in accordance with the truth, we are at risk to be swept away by every modern distortion of the truth.

God is counting on all parents to pass on the faith to our children like the people of Japan did in spite of persecutions. God is counting on all parents to save the world through our hard work and efforts in teaching our children the truth. We cannot let life get us down and give up. We have to just keep getting up and starting again.

 

Materialism and Children

Our children have so much money that everyone wants to get it. We need to teach our children about the value of possessions by letting them pay for them themselves. With paper routes, snow shoveling, babysitting, grass cutting, and grandmothers, there is hardly a reason to give our children an allowance these days. Many are wasting it so why give them more.

Start right when they cry “I want that!" at a store by saying "That costs five dollars. Do you have enough money to pay for it?" Institute spending rules when they are young so they know from the start that, for example that one third of their money should go into savings, one third is theirs to spend as they choose and one third goes to charity.

Do not give in to every request. Children who get everything they ask for do not learn to handle disappointment, and they don't learn to work or even just wait for things they desire. Do yourself and your child a favor by saying no to unending requests, even if that provokes tantrums in the toy store. Enlist the aid of friends and grandparents who often delight in "spoiling" your child by suggesting they buy only one gift at birthdays or holidays, instead of half a dozen.

Children should also understand that expenditures such as groceries, rent or mortgage payments are necessities, while others such as game system cassettes are optional. When they whine that they need some new toy you can respond sympathetically, "I understand that you want it," but then explain why he doesn't truly need it Teach them that there are logical reasons behind purchasing decisions and help them to delay gratification. Show them how to give to others. Take him with you to bring dinner to a sick neighbour or to volunteer in a soup kitchen or visit a nursing home. That kind of activity can foster an attitude that will help counter materialism more powerfully than almost anything else. Spend time rather than money on your kids. It's not easy in our hectic lives to give children the time and attention they crave. If their parents are too busy for family life, then the kids will retreat to their toys, TV and game systems. Things are no substitute for spending time with family. Make an effort spending time together doing things that do not cost anything. Go to the park to play soccer or baseball, visit the library, take nature walks and bike rides, play a game of charades or a board game. No matter what your child says, he wants and needs a secure sense of family more than a roomful of possessions.
  

My Letter in The National Post

Last week I downloaded Robert Bellarmine's "The Art of Dying Well" on my e-reader for 99 cents. Bellarmine, a Jesuit from the 1600s, writes this book from God’s perspective. Bellarmine makes it simple. He explains sixteen things you can do to put your life in order now, so that you’ll start living better today and be prepared for death whenever it comes.

Bellermine shows that the art of dying is not a matter of privacy between a physician and a patient, not a contract or living will between a patient and the extended family, and not a matter of self-determination on the part of the terminally ill. He shows how the art of dying is the most intimate of relationships between a us and God.

While advocates of assisted suicide seek to relieve the physical suffering of patients, the act of providing a choice can actually create some pressure to make a particular choice. Some choose physician-assisted suicide to avoid inflicting a burden on loved ones. But when assisted suicide becomes a routine medical practice, it ends up corrupting the entire network of human relationships. Physician-assisted suicide takes away the duty to bear one another’s burdens and perform spiritual works of mercy.

We need to look deeper into past traditions that offer more truth on the reality of dying than all the contemporary arguments that attempt to remove the sting of death or rationalizes the necessity for physician-assisted suicide. The easy way is not always the best way.

Dianne Wood

Listening

St. Francis was known for telling his friars not to preach unless they had received the proper permission to do so. He would say “Let all the brothers, however, preach by their deeds.” From this rule of his sprang the catchy phrase “Preach the gospel at all times. Use words if necessary.” We can all learn a lot from this wise phrase. Or as it says in Proverbs “He who answers before listening--that is his folly and his shame.” (Proverbs 18:13)

We can help others come closer to God and come to a better understanding of the truth by the way we communicate with them. Good listening and good communication skills benefit all of the people in our life. No one has ever experienced a negative side effect from saying less while listening more. If we want to be wise stewards of our words, we need to use them sparingly and speak strategically. We need to pray for a gift of tongues in order to be understood by those around us. But there is a reason God gave us two ears and only one mouth.

With all those we communicate with during the day we need to allow Jesus to speak through us. Jesus is someone who always listens with an open heart. On the road to Emmaus (Luke 24: 13‐35) Jesus actively listened to those in need. Only after listening to their concerns did he explain the scripture to them. “Were not our hearts burning while he spoke to us on the way and opened the scriptures to us?” Listening is a master skill, it is a fine art.

By developing a prayer life and listening to Jesus we can learn to love like God wants us to love. Jesus taught us that the most important commandment is to love. Through listening carefully we show the other that they are loved. We must think carefully before speaking, writing, tweeting, blogging, etc. We’re not called to attack others. God says they’ll know we are Christians by our love. We need to speak the truth in love. Attacking an individual is never speaking the truth in love. Only through listening carefully to understand the other can we truly love. As Paul said “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.” (1 Cor. 13:1)

Everybody has a story and there is always a story behind their story. People need a chance to talk out what has happened to them in life in order for them to come to a better understanding of God and His mercy. Making the choice to actually listen to people, to know them, gives us much more insight into how better to show them the love of Christ and best present His truth. Our snap judgements do a world of harm to those thirsting for the living water of hope that is Christ. In our efforts to present the truth, people will be more willing to listen to us if they can trust us and by truly listening to them we can develop that trust.

Listening makes others feel worthy, appreciated, interesting, and respected. Ordinary conversations emerge on a deeper level, as do our relationships, when we listen. When we listen, we foster the skill in others by acting as a model for positive and effective communication.

In our relationships, greater communication brings greater intimacy. Parents listening to their children helps build their self-esteem. Listening saves time and money in the business world, by preventing misunderstandings. We always learn more when we listen than when we talk. Listening skills fuel our social, emotional and professional success.

Listening is a precious gift. The gift of time is something we all miss out on these days. Nearly every aspect of human life could be improved by better listening. It helps build relationships, solve problems, ensure understanding, resolve conflicts, and improve accuracy. At home, it helps develop resourceful, self-reliant kids who can solve their own problems. Listening builds friendships and listening builds marriages.

In order to listen we must remember to pray for an increase in the gift of Understanding, a gift of the Holy Spirit. Understanding allows us to get to the very core of revealed truths. The best way to gain someone’s trust is to listen. In order to truly listen we need to trust in the inner workings of God.





Of course the technology of today has erected new barriers to listening. Face-to-face meetings and telephone conversations are being replaced by email and social media. Listening is a skill to be acquired, and a gift to be shared. We need to listen lovingly in order to build relationship and enhance intimacy. Listening creates an environment where the speaker feels heard and understood, and can find greater clarity and understanding.

Listening skills need to be developed and that takes time and effort. To start off we need to put the focus of your attention totally on the speaker. In order to do this we need to set aside our own agendas. We need to focus on looking at them and making eye contact. We need to mentally screen out distractions and not be distracted by your own thoughts, feelings, or biases. A quality conversation is one in which the other person is the centre of attention. When we are listening we must never interrupt or impose our own solutions. We must wait for the speaker to pause to ask clarifying questions and to ensure understanding of something that has been said. But we must be careful to avoid questions that disrupt the speaker's train of thought.

The best type of questions when we are trying to listen are open-ended questions such as “How did that make you feel? What did you like about it? How important is this to you? Tell me what you mean by that?” This allows the person to continue talking but also shows we are interested.

When dealing with difficult people if we spend more time listening than speaking the person will become less difficult. When in doubt about whether to listen or speak it is always best to just keep listening. A big mistake is to get into a competition with the other. It is important to avoid dropping the “Story-Topping” bomb. Just be patient and listen in order to develop the relationship and take it to a higher level. But of course we have to be willing to sacrifice our own needs in order to do that.

It takes a lot of prayer, love for the other person, self-forgetfulness, concentration and determination to be an active listener and good communicator . We need to become comfortable with silence if we want to help others through our listening. We need to be deliberate with our listening and remind ourselves frequently that our goal is to truly hear what the other person is saying. Through listening we can learn a lot about the other person's attitudes and we can give the other person enjoyment.

As James said “ Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James1:19). In times of trouble a sympathetic ear is more valuable to most people than anything that can be said to them. Thank you for listening to me today.